It is here

I am a new woman, well a new mother at least. Why you may ask?
Because I have now began a new adventure, something never faced before. Let me see if these two phrases will give you a clue...

Boys will be boys and the terrible two's.

That's right the time has come. This sweet little face has hit me with a ball from left field. I have no idea what to do with him. Don't let the picture fool you, I know he is cute but boy is he fierce.
Let see, this past week he has ripped shelves out of the wall, broken frames, and scolded me with the words mine and NO more times than I can count. I have found a handful of baby nails in his mouth. We were at the checkout stand and I had to get the peanut butter from his hands just so she can scan it. It was gone for a millisecond but when I gave it back he looked at me and with his almost two year old glare he cussed at me and threw the jar down on the ground. And continued to scream till we got to the car. Oh if you dare not do what he wants, we get a 30 minute fit. I am telling you neither of my ladies did this when they were two. They had their moments but nothing like this. I keep looking for teeth, or a fever anything to have a reason for this terrible behavior but I guess it's just that time. I am hanging on, and I am sure there will be more to post. H

Comments

[Stephanie (PurdueLiz)]

I feel your pain. Only my 2 year old is my daughter, who is so very, very, very different from her 3 brothers. They were a piece of cake compared to her. Chin up, it gets better someday right? Right? (Oh please someone tell me it does!)

[Kim Metzger]

Hi Heather,
I can relate. It's a long hard battle. All I can say is be consistent. My lowest point was after a trip to the grocery store when I took something from Luke and he smacked me on the face. I up and left pronto and "I" had a time-out next to the car becuase I was at my breaking point with the kid. A friend of ours from small group worked at Albertsons and saw the whole thing. The worst part of it was that I didn't even see the smack comin. Nice huh.
Hang in there. I really think it's a boy thing.
Kim Metzger

[Worshipfan]

THAT is why God makes them cute......It's harder to want to ship them away forever. I've so been there and done that!

He will grow out of it....someday!

[Bran3]

I kinda of think it is more of a birth order thing. I have three boys and my first two never acted that way. My third boy is the same age of Losiah and is throwing the exact same fits you described. I keep telling myself, "He's gonna make one great adult with his persistence and strong will!!"

[Jamie Ivey]

Been there done that! Girl we have all been through it! I have two boys so I can't really compare life with boys to girls, but I hear that girls are easier when they are little but harder when they're older.

We have a little girl joining our family soon, so I'll keep this in mind. I'll have three boys and one girl ... hopefully I can make it through the teenage years with that!

[DanaeDanae]

Thats a boy for you all right

Danae

[jen harris]

My youngest just turned 2, and I sooo know how you feel! I will be praying for you! :)

[Casey Angulo]

Terible two's??!! Don't consider yourself so lucky. Those hormones are still raging well into Caleb's 3rd year. Hang in there. Not that I have anything figured out, but my advice is to pick your battles. I try to focus on matters of the heart.

[Amy]

You're scaring me please god let my child be an angel and not do this.

[Kellyn]

oh bless you. Two's are not fun (three's aren't much better to be honest) but remember that they always need their mama!
My step son went through this, and threw a toy when he was just about three, through a window...yes a window. That was the worst of it, and he got better soon after.
One day at a time, and take breaks for you!

[Lori-Lynn Navarro]

Is it bad that I take joy in this post? Remember all of those times you you laughed at me, in my pain? Heee Heee Heee! It's your turn now! I love you friend. Hang in there! It does pass, eventually :)!

[Father]

What terrible 2's? He is an angel when I get home everyday.
I have no idea what you are talking about.

[Amy]

A woman has strengths that amaze me. She can handle trouble and carry heavy burden. She holds happiness, love and opinions. She smiles when she feels like screaming. She sings when she feels like crying. She cries when she's happy and laughs when she's afraid. Her love is unconditional. There's only one thing wrong with her and that is that sometimes she forgets what she is worth.

[rebecca]

Mom of 4 boys, oldest is 15. When he was 2, he had a permanent bruise on his forehead from pounding it on the brick fireplace when he got angry. His tantrums are legendary in our family.

But guess what, he is the most wonderful 15 year old in the world. He does well in school, he's kind, he's polite, and we have a WONDERFUL relationship.

Hang in.

[shan]

well, i know that losiah and leia are about the same age & she's starting to get a little snippier too. she definitely knows what she wants and let you know that she's not happy when she doesn't get her way! :) she's still at the age where it's kinda cute (most of the time at least).

[Tina Thruston]

Heather,

Evey child is different. Each have their own "thing" be it subtle or out there for the world to see. God's purposes for each child is as unique as the child. I highly recommnend a few books. Here they are: Parenting Isn't for Cowards, Dr. James Dobson; Strong-Willed Child, Dr. James Dobson; You Can't make Me but I Can Be Persuaded, I think Cynthia Tobias? maybe not?; Bringing up Boys, Dr. James Dobson; Teaching Truth about Consequences, Dr. Kevin Lehman

Remember to pray for and over your son. You may be surprised at how quickly he comes to your side or it may be a while. Either way, be consistent and pray. God will provide you with the support and words for him. Don't fret and don't compare, especially in front of the children. A nice Calgon moment works too!

All God's best,
Tina- mother to 4, wishin' there was more.

[Robin]

That is sadly, MY DAUGHTER. She is just like her daddy (Lord help me). When some family members asked me to tell some stories about her, I just said, "Her whole life is a story."

It gets worse before it gets better. Sorry! It will however make for some very amusing anecdotes. Well, amusing for others anyway.

[Lita aka Grandma]

Is he sitting in his time out chair? See you soon. Love, Carmen

[Simone Widney]

Both of our children are adopted so I can tell you it is not an adopted child thing. And it's not a boy/girl thing, either.

Your son sounds exactly like our daughter, Paris. Your daughters sound just like our son, Jazz. Jazz was such a peaceful presence. I figured he must have gotten that from my husband.

Paris' screams go from 0 to 180 in less than 2 seconds. I swear to you, she cries for no reason. None. She turns 2 in 19 days. My straight-jacket is being custom made as I type.

I started singing the song, "I love Paris", in part, to remind myself that I did love her. I often think she is my payback for me having been a difficult child (according to my older siblings...)

Jason and I have said that if we had had Paris first, she would have been an only child.

[bigdaddyjer]

You just described a day in the life of Chelle. We love you and miss you.
Jer

[Cindi]

We went through the same with our now 8 year old son. I read somewhere that some kids just have an immature nervous system and can't control their emotions as easily - which also explains the colic we suffered through as an infant. We found that if he is tired or hungry, it is worse. When he acts this way we try and get some of those orange crackers with the peanut butter in him and it seems to help - if nothing more than something to distract him from the fit. Plus, they fit easily into a purse, pocket, etc. Best of luck!!

[Emily]

Hey so this might make for an interesting post: what's your form of discipline? I am always interested to know if parents prefer time outs, spankings, etc.
I'm not a parent yet, but I enjoy doing this type of research ;)

[Father]

Well, we don't spank. When I first became a parent I thought I would. I tried it and had to hit so hard before Poor sohaila knew it was not a joke. After that I realized that the only time I spanked was when I had no other parental idea's left. When I was done. So instead of taking it out on the kids we don't spank. The girls and even Losiah do well with the naughty corner. It works for us. He is just a boy that is two. He is fine it's just a different ball game. H

[whittakerwoman]

oops carlos used my computer last that was mother :) H

[Renee Garcia]

haha ohhhhh the memories from Kameron... and my future with Keeghan. Gotta love those boys!

[Dana]

oh gosh...I know how that is...Josh was a temperamental little man for a few months, and still has his moments.

I read this book once called "Making the Terrible Two's Terrific" and it was pretty good...

Apparently when children are babies, they rule the roost...sit on the throne...they are fed when they are hungry(on demand), held when they cry...head honchos, you could say...

and then suddenly (around 2 years old'ish) they have to step down from the throne and do things on their own...they suddnely comprehend the word "no" and they are NOT down with that...they fight until they win... (actually until they realize that THEY have stepped down from the throne and YOU are on it...for good). :)

Boys are different than girls too...boys have this meanness..but they forgive and forget much quicker than girls.

HAHA-it sounds like I have children...but I don't...I guess that is what happens when you are a NANNY for a couple years...

[Rhi]

man, so this is what lies ahead for me? bummer. I've actually heard that 3's are worse than 2's. I pray not for both of us! Let me know if you find any tricks that work!Izaiah is starting to try and throw fits when you take things from him...geez.

[Deemus]

You did an amazing job with the house! Very nice indeed.

Not sure what your views on child discipline are, but we are spankers. All 7 of them. You have to start young, be consistent, never use hands (those are for love) and NEVER do it in anger.

Our little wooden spoon saw lots of action, and was replaced several times because the kids would throw it away. Our kids are 11 to 24 now, and we always get the best compliments on how well behaved and respectful they are.

They are confident, stable, loving people. I think kids having those boundaries provides an amazing sense of security for them. They know the line and how far they can go, and its very liberating for them.

"He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him." Proverbs 13:24

[Warren]

My sister and I were the exact opposite. I (the first child) was the wonderful, trouble-free child, and my sister's nickname (from my parents!) was "Tara, the holy terror." We put child safety locks on everything in the house, but she could open them faster than the rest of us (I was 8). She would sneak into my room with all my GI Joes and sweep them all off the table, just for fun.

Ultimately, it gave me a very young concept of "sin nature," because I associated it with my kid sis! :)

[Susan]

He'll make up for it when puberty hits...boys are much easier, I've heard!

[Sandi Glidewell]

Okay, seriously, bring him over! Our kids have to play. Maybe they'll even each other out. I cried after my last grocery run with Parker because I'm about to have another baby. It was that bad. :) But, it's kinda fun at the same time, huh.